What to Ask on Your Wedding RSVP (and What Not To)
The RSVP form is the single most useful piece of your online wedding invitation. Done well, it hands you the guest list, the special menus, and the bus headcount without a single phone call. Done badly, it becomes a questionnaire people abandon halfway through. The golden rule: every question must have a concrete use. If you don’t know what you’ll do with the answer, cut it.
The essentials
- Full name. Obvious, but ask for it in full: at a 150-person wedding there will be two Sarahs and three Toms.
- Will you attend? Yes or no. Accept the “no” gracefully: a form that only allows confirmations forces the guest who can’t come to message you privately — exactly what you were trying to avoid.
- Plus-ones. How many are coming, and their names. Names matter for the seating plan and for telling adults from children.
- Allergies and dietary requirements. The caterer’s favourite question. A free-text field beats checkboxes: there are more dietary restrictions out there than boxes you could ever list.
Highly recommended (depending on your wedding)
- Will you use the shuttle bus? If you’re providing transport, this answer determines how many buses you book. Ask for the pick-up point too, if there’s more than one.
- Children’s menu. If you’re expecting kids, ask how many and their ages.
- A song that can’t be missing. Optional and skippable, but it gives the DJ material and makes the form more fun to fill in.
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- Full postal address. Only if you’re mailing something physical afterwards. Otherwise it’s friction — and personal data you don’t need to look after.
- Duplicate questions. If you already know the ceremony and reception are at the same venue, don’t ask which one they’ll attend.
- Long sentimental questionnaires. “Tell us your favourite memory with us” is lovely, but as a required field it scares people off. Make it optional, or save it for another moment.
Details that make the difference
A visible deadline. Write it on the invitation itself and on the form. The usual practice is to close RSVPs 3–4 weeks out, when the caterer asks for final numbers.
Confirming as a household. Letting one person confirm for their whole family cuts the workload enormously: a form that accepts named plus-ones solves this.
Being able to correct. Someone will confirm and then have something come up. Make sure you can edit or delete responses from your dashboard.
Filtering the noise. A public form on the internet eventually attracts bot spam. The tool you use should filter it out without bothering your real guests.
In short
Name, attendance, plus-ones, allergies, and transport: with those five answers you can organise 95% of a wedding. Everything else is optional.
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